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玛德琳老师健康讯息2023年12月27日

 

 

2023年12月27日

亲爱的朋友、亲人和同事,

只是想向大家更新一下我的情况。我希望你们理解我现在需要这样一个通用博客来传达讯息。

我一直感到疲劳、疼痛、没有胃口,体重也在下降。11月底在中国教书的时候,这一切都到了关键时刻。我多次去重庆的医院和兰利纪念医院(加拿大)做检查。我们12月6日从中国返程回家,然后“旋风”开始了。

 

上周我做了两次手术。

第一次手术是12月19日星期二。我可爱的肾结石专家,兰利纪念医院的珀克斯(Perks)医生走进来,手术切除了4个肾结石,这些肾结石阻碍了肾脏的正常工作而且让我很疼痛。肾结石造成的疼痛是我12月1日去重庆医院检查的最初原因,当时我和吉姆(Jim)在那里教书。这次检查发现了肾结石。它还排除了糖尿病。我们曾希望只是糖尿病!三天后我们回到同一家医院。CT扫描显示结肠肿瘤和肝脏上的许多阴影,这是癌症开始的地方。

 

本周的第二个手术是在两天后,12月21日星期四,也是在兰利纪念医院,它涉及到切除结肠肿瘤及1.5英尺(近45厘米)的结肠,当然还有很多剩余的结肠!

在医院住了4天4夜,最近的突破点是3周以来第一次吃固体食物——医院级别待遇的在白色吐司上夹着炒鸡蛋,从来没有吃得这么好!我在圣诞夜出院,彻底享受了大约15个家庭和大家庭的家庭聚会和一些圣诞食物,很多搅碎的肉汁。我只是躺在沙发上,每个人都投入了。回家真好!

 

我的情况怎样呢?仍然有很多疼痛,不同的疼痛。暴风雨(即为未来而害怕的泪水),特别是一个人独自的晚上。但除此之外,我保持乐观并决心克服这个难关。我正在服用重负荷的扑热息痛(羟考酮和扑热息痛/泰诺),但吉姆为我“削减”了份量。明天我只吃泰诺3。

 

我们已经通过了前两个阶段的治疗。当我从结肠手术中恢复过来时,我就要处理肝脏上的许多肿瘤,第三个阶段的治疗将在1月份到来。我将与阿博茨福德(Abbotsford)的肿瘤学家合作,我仍然心怀希望,希望通过化疗,我的肝癌能缩小并得到控制。我被告知我永远有癌症,我不得不一直控制它。现在的医疗技术比2000年我患乳腺癌时先进得多。值得注意的是,肝癌的化疗比乳腺癌的化疗要温和得多,我还能留着头发。

 

我会在以后的邮件中更新我的进展。

露西放弃了在卑诗省中部的工作,来和我住在一起,照顾我恢复健康。她想从事护理工作,她已经证明了自己的价值。她很了不起,没有什么能阻碍她。

吉姆继续是我心中的爱,我的伙伴,我的灵魂伴侣。他给我洗澡,给我喂食;在我半夜害怕时给我读一本非常生动的犯罪小说,帮助我来分心,却奇迹般地让我重新入睡。

 

莫莉和克洛伊分别带着她们目前和未来可能的伴侣一起回家过圣诞节。他们帮着打扫、清洁、洗衣服,维持着家庭的正常运转,给我无尽的情感支持,还对我进行“吩咐 ”。哦,我当年“吩咐使唤他们”的时代变了。

我只在圣诞节那天见到了Sarah和Devon一家,看到和听到孩子们笑着跑来跑去,嘴巴里有时喊着“这不公平”,这一切真是太可爱了。他们中的一个孩子必须学会当你与其它人交换口袋妖怪卡时,它就不再是你自己的了!哈,我们是这样艰难地学习到这个部分。

 

同时我的继女斯蒂芬妮(Stephanie),吉姆(Jim)儿子的伴侣,做了一个梦。这是在未来的某个时候。我和家人在一起,我们一起站在霍恩比岛的海滩上。我们在度假。那个时侯四岁的表兄弟Ace和Wyatt现在已经是青少年了,他们在沙滩上抽着香烟。我还活着,我们笑着,讲着我们的故事,享受着这一刻。

 

这个邮件列表上有84人。我道歉,我不能总是给你们回信,但我希望能收到你的来信。请把这个信息传递给世界上任何可能喜欢这个消息的人。

 

爱你们所有人,

请尽可能传递你所拥有的爱和疗愈的能量给我。

 

 玛德琳

 

December 27 2023

My Dear Friends, Relatives, and Colleagues,

 

Just an update for you on what’s happening to me. I hope that you understand the need for a generic blog at this time.

 

I’ve been feeling fatigued, in pain, lacking an appetite and losing weight for a while now. It all came to a head at the end of November in China while I was teaching. Many visits to hospitals there in Chongqing and here at Langley Memorial for many tests. We arrived home on December 6th and then the whirlwind began.

 

 I’ve had two surgeries last week.

 

The first surgery, on Tuesday Dec 19. Dr. Perks, my lovely Kidney stone specialist at Langley Memorial, went in and surgically broke up 4  kidney stones that were preventing the kidney from working properly and were painful. The kidney stone pain was the original reason for going into the hospital in Chongqing and getting tested on Dec 1 while I was there, with Jim, teaching  That visit revealed the kidney stones. It also ruled out diabetes. We were hoping for diabetes! Three days later we went back to the same hospital. A CT scan revealed a colon tumour and many shadows on the liver which is where the cancer began.

 

The second surgery this week was 2 days later, on Thursday Dec 21. Also at Langley Memorial. It involved the removal of the colon tumour along with 1.5 feet of colon, there’s a lot to spare!

 

4 days and nights at the hospital. A recent highlight was to be given solid food for the first time in 3 weeks - the dry hospital-grade scrambled egg on white toast has never gone down so well! I was discharged on Christmas Eve and thoroughly enjoyed a family gathering of about 15 family and extended family and some  Christmas food, albeit mashed up with lots of gravy. I just lay on the couch and everyone pitched in. So lovely to be home!!

 

How am I doing? Still a lot of pain, different pain. Squalls (ie tears of fear for the future) , especially alone at night, but otherwise optimistic and determined to get through this. I am on heavy duty percacet, (oxycodone and paracetamol/Tylenol) but Jim “cuts” it for me. I will be just on Tylenol 3 tomorrow.

 

We’ve got through the first two phases of the medical treatment. The third coming up in January when I’m recovered from the colon operation is to deal with the many tumours on the liver. I’ll work with the oncologist in Abbotsford. I’m holding on to the hope that, through chemotherapy, my liver cancer will be shrunk and remain under control . I’m told that I’ll always have cancer now. I just have to manage it. The medical technology is so much more advanced than it was in 2000 when I had breast cancer. Of note chemo for liver is less harsh than that of breast cancer and I will keep my hair.

I’ll update you in future messages as to how that’s going.

 

Lucy has given up here work in central BC to come and live with me and nurse me back to health. She wants to go into nursing and she has already proved her worth. She has been amazing. Nothing has phased her.

 

Jim continues to be my love, my partner my soul mate as well as bathing me, feeding me and reading a very graphic  crime novel to me when I get scared in the middle of the night. It is very distracting and works wonders getting back to sleep.

 

Moly and Chloe came home for Christmas with their wonderful current and potential partners. They have kept the house hold going, by coking, cleaning, washing, giving me endless emotional support and bossing me around. Oh how the tide has turned.

 

I only got to see Sarah’s and Devon’s family on Christmas Day and it was so lovely to see and hear the children laughing running around, crying with a few “its not fair.”  One of them has to  learn that when you trade a Pokemon card it is no longer yours! Oh how we learn the hard way.

Meanwhile my step-daughter, Stephanie, Jim’s son’s partner,  had a dream. It’s sometime in the future. I am with the family and we are standing together looking down at the beach on Hornby Island. We’re on holiday. The four year old cousins Ace and Wyatt are now teenagers and they’re down there on the sand smoking weed. I am alive, we’re laughing, telling our stories and enjoying the moment.

 

There are 84 of you on this email  list. I aplogise that I won’t always be able to reply, but I would  love to hear from you. Please pass this message on to anyone in the world who might like the news.

 

Love to you all,

 

Please send as much loving, healing energy as you have to spare.

 

Madeleine

 
 
 

 

 

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